Free cash advances

As some of you may know from my previous posts, I have been on a mission to get responsibly re-aquainted with my good old friend the credit card. Sadly a few months ago when I wrote to tell you of my progress I had not gotten very far. Free cash advances being my provider of choice to fuel my shopping addiction. I’m happy to say that for 2 months now I have been free and clear of any debt and have refrained from spending any money that I absolutely don’t have to. Thankfully I have had such great support from my family and friends as well as my readers. I can’t believe the outpouring of emails I received from fellow shopoholics, who know exactly what I am going through. Sometimes in life, it’s easy to think that you are alone in a situation, until you open up about it and reach out to others. Suddenly you realize that their are so many other people out there who have the same issues and who are willing to talk and listen. It’s marvelous that people can come together and band together through difficult times and help each other through relating.

 

Debt is a common problem that so many people try to mask. I know that on a personal level so many people thought I had it all together and that I was living the high life. For some time, I even had myself convinced, but as the big bills kept rolling in, I just couldn’t masquerade behind the fancy Christian Louboutin shoes, or the Prada sunglasses anymore. I had to let go of the idea that I was richer than I was, I strived so much to have what I thought was success through the eyes of everyone else. In the process,  I let my self get into a a really bad financial bind without even noticing it was happening. Crazy how it happens isn’t it? I’m not ashamed to admit it, it took me a long time to get this point, but I know now that others felt the same, and they crying out to be figured out to. Sometimes trying to hard to be something you really are not can be exhausting and make you feel less than what you are. Now through this humbling experience I have been able to find my true authentic self and shine through for who I really am.

 

I still enjoy fine things, and buy myself designer things. But I don’t spend money I don’t have. I have also managed to build myself a little nest egg, it’s not big, it’s only been a few months, but it’s getting there. Through this, I have learned about saving and investing my money and being independtly responsible. I don’t rely on anyone but myself now, and I constantly thrive to learn as much as I can on a daily basis. I’m glad that through this experience I have been able to connect with other men and women who have gone through similar accounts and I believe that I have learned from them as well. This is a great time in my life and I expect that as I learn more and get older it will only get better. Thanks all!